The word ‘esquire’ has changed from being a title of noble blood in the Middle Ages, to something much more reachable and attainable, yet just as noble in its own right – and that is a lifestyle centered around sophistication, confidence and timeless style. The modern esquire is not born into privilege; he has been trained and groomed through intentional choices, and a demanding sense of style across the board.
The Modern Esquire Wardrobe Philosophy
The modern esquire recognizes that taking the time to consider style is not about being trendy; it’s about building a wardrobe filled with investment pieces that last beyond blood, sweat, and tears. A well-tailored navy suit, aged leather shoes that weathered time beautifully, and crisp white shirts are the basics. The key is versatility: each piece should be able to work in those shared environments in a number of ways, from the boardroom presentation to the Sunday brunch with friends.
Being Well-Groomed: The Fine Line Between Looking Put-Together and Pretentiousness
A man who represents his profession well takes pride in his appearance, as this demonstrates discipline and self-respect. This includes having a consistent skincare routine, wearing a signature scent that does not overtake the room, and getting your hair cut regularly. Furthermore, the objective is not to appear well-groomed, rather that you appear effortlessly put-together as if this is a natural state of being.
A Man Who is Well-Read
To live like an esquire is not just about aesthetics. A well-rounded man is a man who is contemporaneously knowledgeable about world events, appreciates art and culture, and is capable of having an intelligent conversation with anyone on varying subjects. The intellectual curiosity must be cultivated through quality reading, visiting an art museum or gallery, or reading the global news.
A Man Who Can Entertain
To know how to entertain is a hallmark of the esquire lifestyle. To entertain, is to know a number of different wine pairings, to be able to make a few of your signature cocktails, and to create an environment for guests that is both stimulating and comfortable. You should have a nice bar, good glassware, and you should be able to cook at least three excellent dishes.
The Importance of Physical Wellness
A modern esquire is aware that physical fitness isn’t a matter of vanity, but rather a matter of self-maintenance. It’s a priority regardless if it’s in the gym, in martial arts, or engaged in outdoor movement. Being in shape shows self-discipline, and provides the energy to succeed and excel in all areas of life.
FAQs
Q: Is living an esquire life about expensive brands?
A: Absolutely not. Quality over quantity and timeless style over trends. Someone with a well maintained vintage watch is more “esquire” than someone wearing a $25,000 “luxury” brand.
Q: What is the cost to build this lifestyle?
A: Start with the foundations and work your way up. Purchase high quality basics first—suits, shoes, grooming. Then expand your foundational habits and interests, wine, art, and collectors items as the budget permits.
Q: Can anyone embrace the esquire lifestyle?
A: Absolutely. The esquire lifestyle is about developing depth of character, not about family lineage or affluence. It’s a mindset and discipline to live a better life.
Q: How do I intelligently balance old and new?
A: Keep your base old world (tailoring, decorum, grooming) and add new world pieces in the form of accessories, technology, and other cultural interests.
Q: Isn’t this lifestyle just old-fashioned?
A: The principles of self-improvement, sophistication, and social grace are principled in the human condition. The way those principles are expressed, will change with the times.
Disclaimer
This article is informational lifestyle content based on an ethical concept of refined masculine living. What constitutes style, sophistication, and personal development behaviors typically differs from one person to the next. What is predicated in the article are suggestions, not directives and you should adapt in accordance with your own context, location and preferences. Any time, product recommendations and levels of investment discussed are rough estimates and will differ based on location, context and personal finances. Always live the lifestyle that fits you, your values and budget!
