The Evırı Mindset for Personal Growth: Creating New Possibilities by Reversing Limiting Beliefs

Understanding How the Evırı Mindset Works in All Areas of Life

The evırı mindset represents the practice of flipping your mental model upside down in order to accomplish positive change by seeing things from a completely different angle. The evırı mindset represents something much greater than simply being positive or reframing negative experiences; it consists of completely flipping beliefs, assumptions, perceptions, mindsets, and behaviors that are not currently working for you. The concept is gaining popularity in the self-development fields due to its ability to bring about an effective transformation in one’s mindset and ultimately, the results they can create. Rather than gradually shifting or changing your mindset by incrementally altering your beliefs, the evırı mindset encourages individuals to completely reverse their current way of thinking about themselves, and encourages them to flip or alter their beliefs about themselves.

The evırı mindset can have such a tremendous impact on an individual’s life because it eliminates the need to rely on the gradual process of improving oneself. When you evırı a foundational belief about yourself — for example, (i.e., I am not good enough, to its complete opposite, I AM inherently worthy) — you are not merely changing the self-talk in your head; you are completely changing the entire way you perceive, view, or interact with the world around you. The evırı mindset can help to facilitate immediate change; the types of changes that are possible with an evırı mindset far exceed what you would be able to achieve with conventional self-help applications over a prolonged period of time. Although uncomfortable and at times scary, your greatest growth often occurs at the point where you are least comfortable.

Step One is to Identify What are Your Beliefs To Be Evırıed

Identifying the areas of your life where you need to break out of limiting belief patterns (beyond just looking for things to be grateful for) can prove to be difficult, especially if you do not know what those beliefs are. In order to identify those, start by making a list of the ten most deeply held beliefs about yourself (who you are, what you do well; what you are not capable of), others (who are they, how they relate to the world, do they succeed?); as well as what the world is like (is it fair? Is it kind?) Then think, “If these beliefs were true, then I would see/make evidence for them.” This does not mean that you believe in “positive thinking”. This just means that your current belief system is just one of an infinite number of possibilities. The views of the opposite are just as valid and could potentially be more appropriate than yours. You will find beliefs which produce the greatest resistance when you consider reversing those beliefs.

Changing the Way We Talk to Ourselves

Most of us have very negative ways of thinking about ourselves. We constantly remind ourselves of all our great mistakes and failures. The EVIRɪ approach to self-talk is about catching these negative patterns and intentionally changing them from something that could be described as toxic positivity into more balanced and realistic positive conclusions about ourselves. For example, when you say to yourself, “I always screw things up,” the EVIRɪ reversal wouldn’t be, “I’m perfect. I never fuck anything up,” but rather, “I am capable of growing and learning from the difficulties I go through.” The process of creating an EVIRɪ self-talk pattern can be very hard at first due to the negative beliefs having been ingrained for so long. Initially, you will have to consciously catch yourself in the midst of a negative thought and turn that thought into a positive one. As you continue this process, it will eventually become second nature. Eventually, you will be able to catch and stop many negative thoughts before they ever form in your mind simply because you will be no longer supporting them with negative self-talk. When creating an EVIRɪ, it is important to note that the EVIRɪ should be realistic enough that you are able to believe it and have enough detail in it to make it personal, not just a generic affirmational statement that your brain sees through and rejects as untrue. Creating an authentic EVIRɪ entails being honest with yourself about who you are today and being willing to see the possibility of who you could become.

Relationship Dynamics and Evırı Communication

Moving past rigid world-views allows for growth and maturation. Inherent in all relationships are problems of misunderstanding due to rigid thinking. When you’re engaged in conflict with another person, you may feel very strongly that you are thinking accurately and the other person is incorrect. Evırı helps you to understand that the potential exists for an inverted view of the situation. What you perceive to be supportive or helpful may be construed as controlling, and what you feel to be truthful may be perceived as hurtful, or what feels like love may create distance between you and your partner. While it is not a guarantee, the willingness to make an effort to look at a situation from the other person’s perspective, rather than your own, creates opportunities for better understanding of each other’s experiences.

Practicing evırı communication requires the ability to sometimes voice the opposite of where your initial thoughts are leading you and ask yourself whether or not your statement is indeed the more truthful response. If your instinctual response is to say, “You never listen”, it may be beneficial for you to reverse your statement and instead state, “I have not been effectively expressing myself”, or “I haven’t heard everything you had to say.” Oftentimes, in making these reversals, both you and your partner will come to appreciate that each of your viewpoints contain elements of truth about the conflict, and that the conflict continues to exist only because both you and your partner were stuck in your respective first impressions, without having considered an evırı viewpoint of the situation. Because of this, creating an environment for increased flexibility in your communication style through utilizing the evırı communication technique has present-day implications in transforming a relationship and overcoming existing patterns of rigid behaviours that cause recurring conflicts.

Beliefs in Your Career and Professional Evıri Strategies

The evıri a way of thinking about your career and work and changing how you think. One example of this is if you believed that in order to be successful you needed to work harder, then taking the evıri would be to start thinking you would be more successful if you worked smarter and rested more. Another example would be if you thought asking for assistance is a sign of weakness you could reframe that thought as asking for assistance is the strategic management of resources you would have never considered from your original way of thinking.
There are many people who remain in unfulfilling occupations. They believe reverse beliefs are not possible. Some examples of that are, “I can’t earn a living doing what I enjoy,” and “The time has passed to change careers.” Deliberate evıri’s these ways of thinking do not guarantee success but do allow for many alternative avenues that a person has closed the door to because they overlooked them. The evıri approach asks what if the opposite assumption, for example; was true? What if you acted as if the original thinking was incorrect? Even if you do not fully believe the reverse thought, giving it a chance will often show that the limiting premise was limiting in its totality and has become more factual than previously assumed.

Financial Mindset Transformation

Money Beliefs – Many inherit everything they learn regarding their own financial reality from either their family culture or community culture without ever questioning those perspectives handed down, therefore these are some of the most ripe areas for transformation or discovery of financial beliefs, how to effectively make money or manage it. The common perception that ‘All money is bad or evil’, ‘All wealthy people are greedy’, ‘I am not good with money’, etc. with respect to these statements, is an opportunity to explore many limitations surrounding those beliefs. The transformation of ‘Money is scarce, difficult to make’ into ‘Money moves towards value creation through strategy’ dramatically alters how one thinks about making money and managing finances. This doesn’t mean to believe or think magically but actually denotes the mindset of one who understands that the way they believe and view about money directly affects their behaviours and outcomes of finance. People that think ‘I will never be financially secure’, have a different viewpoint than those who think ‘I am creating financial security that is sustainable’. Explore all beliefs of limits for money, look at the other side of the statement and think about what would happen if the other side was true by changing or reforming those beliefs to the opposite point of view and follow through with the actions that you take, then see what happens as a result. Generally, you will discover that your original belief has been more of a self-fulfilling prophesy than a fixed truth.

Health and Wellness Through Evırı Lens

Examining the viewpoint from a more holistic point enables us to consider everything from minimizing pain and maximizing gain to finding a method that works best for our physique. The view of using motivation as the primary means of continuing an exercise program will likely be viewed more favorably if viewed through the perspective of developing and incorporating appropriate habits and systems to maintain the momentum of an ongoing exercise program, rather than using motivation alone to achieve results. Beliefs about body image often benefit from examining them from a holistic perspective. The reverse view of looking at my body as an adversary would indicate that I should love and nurture my body, as it is my body that provides me with feedback in terms of how to nurture and care for it. The people who view their bodies as allies tend to treat their bodies very differently than the people who view their bodies as adversaries. The ways these parties treat their bodies lead to completely different results over time.

Time Management and Productivity Evırı

The standard advice for improving Productivity typically doesn’t have much impact on increasing productivity unless you are willing to turn upside down the assumption that “I must work harder to achieve more”. This is the opposite of another way of looking at it is that “I must work more efficiently (less is more) to achieve my goals”. If the word “busy” is equated with productivity, think of the opposite meaning: “Space and down time creates optimal performance”. Reversing the conventional wisdom of “busy” gives you greater control over your Productivity, moving away from stressfulness and the feeling of being overwhelmed with Golfing and Changing Your Lifecycle to create a sustainable and intentional use of time.

Evırı Time Management suggests to the user to rethink their current beliefs about how their Work should feel and what actually is productivity, therefore, working through the night to show your commitment to your Job may not be a demonstration of a commitment to your Job, but rather an example of how poorly you set boundaries. Also, if you tend to say “yes” to everyone, it may not be “helpful” to see it that way either, but rather as a way of avoiding the feeling of disappointing people. By reversing those beliefs you will begin to understand that a lot of what people think is Productivity is simply Busyness creating Movement without progressive Outcomes. Once you begin to view your time managers as a means to achieve, you have developed Time Management Systems that will meet your needs rather than just filling in the blank spaces on your Calendar.

Utilisation of Evırı As Daily Routine

To create an ongoing routine and implement evırı daily instead of simply thinking or talking about it, make it part of your everyday routine. Each morning, choose one belief or assumption you would like to reverse for the day; for example, instead of saying that “Mondays are horrible”, say “Mondays will be a new beginning with great potential!” Focus on acting according to that newly-created reversed belief the rest of the day and see how this perspectives/actions affect your experiences and behaviours.

One of the most productive and effective tools when developing evırı is writing in a journal. After writing down areas of your life where you have had difficulties, go back through the same areas of your life and write down what all your beliefs about those situations would look like if they where the total opposite of how they were originally written in your journal; for example, if you wrote, “My boss is Impossible to please” and the new perspective version would be “I havent’t yet learned what success looks like to my boss.” Both of these examples can be accurate in their own way, so create different perspectives so you can be flexibly prepared for all areas in life.

If a person is unfamiliar with “evırı”, their first question would probably be, “What is the difference between evırı and toxic positivity?”

Not only does toxic positivity avoid addressing the negativity that is present in reality; it also forces an artificial and positive perspective on the individual. On the contrary, evırı is based on an authentic exploration of whether the opposing viewpoint (counterbeliefs) might actually be more accurate or helpful to the individual, no matter how uncomfortable that may feel. The key aspect to evırı is finding the truth by deploying perspective reversal (a.k.a. the “opposite perspective”) as opposed to just forcing the individual to be positive.

Which beliefs qualify for evırı?

It would be best to start with those specific beliefs that lead you to negative outcomes repetitively or keep you trapped in repetitive and unwanted behaviors, habits, or patterns. If a belief is preventing your growth and/or well-being, it is a great candidate to be evırı because of the distance you would have to go to find your way back home to your true self. When someone has a strong emotional reaction against even considering the opposing belief (the counterbelief), that person’s emotional resistance indicates that the specific belief qualifies to be evırı.

Can evırı be effective for trauma and/or serious mental health conditions?

While evırı can provide insights and experiences related to healing and recovery in some instances; for serious cases of trauma and/or mental health conditions a person should seek the support of a professional; working in conjunction with a therapist. Certain types of traumatic beliefs may not be reversed without the support of a therapist due to the potential destabilizing effects of the reversal process.

Question: How Long is the Typical Time Expectation for Results from Practicing evırı?

Answer: A Some Shifts in Perspective Will Result in Immediate Changes. A Significant Shift in Belief May Take Weeks or Months of Constant Practice to Produce a Change. Results Will Vary Based on the Amount of Time the Original Belief Was Held and the Commitment Level to Acting From the Reverse Perspective.

Question: What If A Reverse Belief Feels Like A Complete Lie, Or Awful?

Answer: This Is Normal and Not an Indication That You Should Not Explore That Reversal. One Recommendation Is To Act “As If” The Reversal Was True for A Limited Time, Like A Week, and You May Find Something Surprising. The Goal is Not to Make Yourself Believe Something False But To Discover If Your Original Belief is As Absolute As You Thought.

Question: Can You Evırı on Positive Beliefs, or Only Negative?

Answer: You Can and Should Consider Positive Beliefs Too. While Positive Beliefs Appear to Be Positive, They May Actually Limit You from Receiving Support. An Example Would be The Belief “I Am The One Who is Strong and Helps Everyone.” If This Belief is Reversed, You May Discover That Always Being The Strong One Prevents You From Being Nurtured. Evırı Can Be Practiced on All Beliefs and Is Not Only Limited to the Most Obvious Negatives.
 
 

Disclaimer

This article is for informational/educational purposes only! The evırı mindset concepts presented herein do not constitute professional psychological, therapeutic and/or medical advice! While perspective shifts can aid one’s growth and development, they are NOT intended as substitutes for Professional Mental Health Treatment if/when needed by individuals with trauma and serious mental health issues and/or life changes! Therefore, all individuals that are coping with trauma, serious mental health problems, or significant life changes should seek the help of Qualified Mental Health Professionals! Mindset work is not always equally effective for every individual! What works well for one individual may not work well for another! Certain deeply embedded beliefs may require the assistance of a Qualified Mental Health Professional to help one safely examine and alter them! As always, prioritize Your Mental Health and seek appropriate Professional Support as necessary!